My Story


My attorney had arranged for another female attorney (fresh out of law school) to study my case and sit in on all of the hearings in the event that she had to take leave. For much of the trial, I actually had the benefit of two attorneys - one on each side of me. It was like a scene out of a movie. Picture this: The back doors of the courtroom swing open as Glenn walks in with two young, attractive female attorneys - one of them six months pregnant!! I was so overwhelmed at the time with everything going on that I really gave little thought to how this must have looked to everyone else involved. They must have thought that I had somehow "staged" it for appearances or to gain an advantage. The truth is that it was pure coincidence.

At the beginning of the trial, my chances of even getting joint custody did not look good. By the end of the trial, the tide had changed completely. My daugther's mother was her worst enemy through it all, and her behavior in and out of court confirmed that I was doing the right thing by pursuing custody. She consistently lied on the witness stand (which angered the judge), and she frequently lost her cool. She publicly slandered my reputation with false accusations. Thank God we were able to provide evidence that revealed her lies.

Shortly after my daughter's second birthday, I was awarded full physical custody, and her mom received a very liberal visitation schedule. A year later, her mom moved in with a new boyfriend in another city about one hour away. I went back to court, and the judge agreed to modify the court order, and she ended up with the standard "every other weekend" arrangement.

Never in a million years would I have imagined that I would be a single father with custody of a daughter. Honestly, I never wanted sole custody because I never wanted all the responsibility to fall on my shoulders alone. I had never wanted to go to court. If my daughter's mother would have been a responsible parent, I would have gladly shared the parenting responsibilities and avoided the whole drama of a trial.

As the years have past, I have come to realize that this is the best arrangement for our daughter. The situation between my daughter's mom and me is polite, but our discussions are very limited. We don't argue because we rarely talk unless it's to discuss our daughter's needs and to arrange our schedules. I can't trust much of what she tells me because she lies repeatedly. Her lies and deceptions were the main reason why I pursued custody with dogged determination. I knew that I could not trust her or depend on her.

As I look back over the last few years, I am confident that obtaining sole custody of my daughter was the best thing for her and for me too. There were many times during the trial when I just wanted to give up. But every time that I would look into my daugther's eyes, I just knew that I had to keep going. And there were a couple of instances during the trial when I believe a miracle happened to change the course of events.

Now, here I am sharing my story with all of you. I want to learn from other single fathers, and I want to share what I have learned. Many single fathers feel alone, and it's easy to become discouraged and to give up. When fathers give up, they and their children lose out on so much. I want to encourage single fathers to stay involved in their children's lives at all costs. Never give up!

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